Secret Lovers

The worst thing any human can do is lie to themselves. When love has knocked you down instead of basking in the glory of  ‘I was too much of a woman for him’, 'he couldn’t handle all these beauty', 'he’s insecurity of me being better than him got the most of him' or 'he doesn’t really love her, he’s just there for safety his heart belongs to me he admitted it'. Why don’t you start by being honest with yourself, because you wouldn't be the first and last person to lose out on love.

In as much as you may disagree with me; love is not a game. People try to play on love but love itself is not a game and I think men realise this much more than women do. A man will most of the time marry who he loves but lie to you that you have his heart just so you can keep him in your good books. No one ever wants to be the bad person, we all thrive to maintain a good profile in the world; to be more acceptable, to be more appealing, because somehow that gives us fulfilment of our very existence and unfortunately the men seem to understand this much more than the woman.

Let me ask a question; How can it ever be love when you are the one in the dark? Are you a demon? Growing up I was made to understand that evil is the only thing that lurks in the dark and in the shadows of the night. So I am not sure why you will want to have a relationship in the dark with a man that has another relationship in the light and still think you in the dark are the one most loved. Ever heard of sin? Its most done in the dark and it's sweeter than living righteous but even while enjoying your sinful ways you are conscious of the fact that it will lead you to utter damnation so your battle for a righteous life begins and good mostly prevails over evil.

Deep illustration but that’s the only way my mind is describing it this morning. Let me ask another question; why would you want to be a secret sin? Do you not classify yourself worthy enough to be in the light? The woman in the light is exactly like you. All your body parts are in place just like her and in most cases you are even more beautiful than she is, so why degrade yourself so low as to be a sub? You are woman, you are queen, not a house slave, you should control your own castle not sneak around someone’s turf because a man is deceiving you into believing you have his heart. If you really have his heart then you should share his world in the light for everyone to see and not just in dark alleys.

Here’s my take; If a man is in a relationship and claims you have his heart then let him do the right thing, let him get over and done with his relationship, clear his head for 4-6months before re-proposing a relationship with you. If you make him believe he can eat his cake and have it, not only will he eat his cake and have it, he will also start taking opportunity cost notes and measuring you two side by side and before you know it, he will decide ‘the grass is not always greener in the neighbor’s garden’, leaving you in limbo. Why not stop making excuses for your happiness and for love’s sake stop making excuses for these men.