Jail Bird

 Ever been in a relationship with a liar? It could be really frustrating when you know everything that comes out of your lover’s mouth is fabricated and even more tormenting when you just can’t call them out. I have a friend who lies so much you can’t but question her very existence; almost like if you poke her with a pin she might disappear because whenever her mouth is curled up to tell a lie I look into her eyes with a peering squint and believe in my head that she is a figment of my imagination. However, in this post I am going to generalise for all of our sakes.  

A few weeks back I was watching a reality program where the lying lover here was the man.The guy told so much lies that he believed his lies and there was no way you wouldn’t believe him too, until a scene came up where his best friend was shot and in hospital on a near death experience.  Unfortunately before then his best friend’s lover confessed to her lover that she had sex with his friend (the lair) before they got together, just to clear the air before they go any further in their relationship.  While on the hospital bed in a near death experience the best friend told his friend (the lair) that he knew about the affair and he wants to put it behind them with no grievances.  Being the pathologically liar he is, this guy looks his friend straight in the eyes and denied anything ever happened even though the girl was seated right there in the room. His best friend was almost as shocked as I was it was just unbelievable. So I ask; have you ever been in a relationship with a pathological liar?

I once dated a liar, this guy will lie and swear on his mother’s life. The problem with dating a liar is they force you to believe their lies and sooner than you think you start questioning your own truth and before you know what’s going on it all gets swept under the rug to add up to the already bulging pile. Unfortunately, the easiest people to enter into a relationship with are liars and the hardest people to come out a relationship with are still lairs. Only because they will say everything on and under the surface of the earth to get you on their side and often time you fall and fall and fall again for their sweet and sour stories. My ex got married and I wasn’t surprised when another friend told me that he mentioned he didn’t know what tribe his wife came from until after they got married. I guess he met his match eh? All the best to the both of them, I wish them a happy lying life. lol!

How does one get out of a lying relationship? Truth be told the only comparison to it is sinking sand or quick

sand or sharp sand whichever one you call it. The more you try to get out the more it pulls you under and with every pull you get dug in deeper, it just gets worse. The saddest part of all these is everyone around you can see that your partner is a lying Pinocchio which you already know but that fast growing nose is blocking the clear vision of your perfect exit. These might well be the worst experience for you yet especially when things can sometimes get cosy and all rosy. Here’s my take; just be truthful and honest with your-self and believe in your truth, to be honest I think that’s the only way, you need to know the truth and stand by it, it’s the only way you wouldn’t get swayed easily. I was lucky enough to know my ex was cheating through some ‘F.B.I scrutiny’ but to be honest I already knew the relationship was going nowhere I just needed a very strong cause (and a saw to chop off that Pinocchio nose trunk) for my exit.

To manage the situation you could consider giving yourself some space from this toxic person, it will help you think clearly at least enough to plan your exit. I have learned that there is no right or wrong way to handle a relationship; what applies to Paul may not necessarily apply to Peter and people handle situations in different ways. Although one thing remains right; your happiness, like I will always say; find your happy spot and remain there so long as you’re happy that’s all that matters but if you are unhappy don’t stay in one position praying for change, you will only remain miserable and in the long run depressed, always remember; change only comes when your change your rotation.