THE LOVE STORY BEGINS...

Too many people are single, men and women both. It is disheartening, the number is staggering and the situation is very critical. Fortunately majority of the singles have the hope to settle with someone someday be it through love or convenience, which ever way, that doesn't really matter. Unfortunately both sexes are making the same mistake; having too much analysis on the opposite sex. Read my words carefully...no one is a specimen of your relationship practical therefore you cannot get your future result NOW.

Quite a number people will tell you they knew their spouse was their future from the first day they saw them and a lot of single people wonder how that could happen and why they haven't felt that happen to them and are willing to wait for that to happen to them before they know it is true love. The stereotype that has been placed on love make you believe that love can only be one way, and that way being the spiritual connection way...the connection that you feel deep down in your soul. Ermmmm, wrong! Love is in the mind, don't allow your mind play tricks on you.

First impression last the longest; the first notion you have of someone you see for the first time will determine the kind of relationship you are likely to have with the person few months down the line. If a man sees a woman for the first time, in a tight fitting choking dress, looking all sexy and ready to bang, trust me he's not going to start thinking of wifying, he's thinking of what you want him to think of; BANGING! And baby it will take a long time and a lot of work to take that thought out his mind. The same way if a woman's first impression of a man is womanising a lot of effort will have to be put in to make her open up completely to you.

Now without diverting from the matter, the problem with being single is the fact that you are searching, as long

as you continue searching, you are most likely going to remain single. The baggage that comes with searching is that you have made yourself a self acclaimed critic. The minute a man says hi, you open up your mind's spectacle and binoculars and search his soul for a future. Your brain automatically starts processing; first you look him head to toe, you scan everything from his eyes, teeth, nose, height, skin colour, shape of head, fingernails to the way he talks, walks, how he is dressed and so on. Placing it side by side with your future and seeing if it matches. Nobody is perfect so if he meets up to half of your criteria, you don't really mind, you can work with that, at least half bread is better than none. It is on this notion that the months ahead you is based...the lets see how it goes notion. If he meets 80% of your criteria...you follow the head over heels perception of love notion and if he matches up to 100 or makes it to 101% that's your dream come to live. Unfortunately, there is a very tiny percentage of two people who are willing, ready and single meeting each other and ticking all their possible perfect love match box right about the same time.

So when you give this person that is no where near matching your spec of perfect love a chance, your mind

immediately starts looking for flaws and in this process, you miss out completely on a perfectly healthy replication of what could have possibly turned out to be love. This situation tends to happen more often to women than to men. For men there will always be that one excuse of why you had to let her go; ugh she's too childish, she complains a lot, she's such a snob, she's a jealous chic, she dresses too sexy, she talks loud, she's too quiet and so on. Mind you, this complains only started after you banged her not once but a few good times. The truth is, from the first day you saw her, you set to bang her anyway and when you succeeded in doing so, you try to analyse how her personalities match yours to make a perfect future but that thought quickly fades away as no one is perfect so now you set to dismiss her because the purpose of getting her in the first place has been fulfilled.

Here is my take on things; the only way not to be single is to mingle and by mingle I mean total open minded interaction and conversations, no over analysing, no scrutinising, no day dreaming and no over reacting. Any relationship started as a love relationship is already on its way to being yet another disaster relationship. The best way to find the love of your life is through friendship not love at first sight, not the cars, not the handsome face, not the banging body, not the perfect manicure. All that just makes you basic and all together shallow. You need to focus more on friendship and  not marriage plus stop giving all of you away all at once so that you can keep the excitement of being together constant. Shikena!

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