Make a U turn.

Fellow readers and bloggers am so sorry I havent blogged in what seems like forever, Ive been so busy planning my wedding,  am getting married next month (May) that starts tomorrow and being that am particular about how I want things, am planning my wedding myself from another country. So I was watching cheaters and a woman contacted Joey Greco to help investigate her man as he was suspected of cheating. They did, the confrontation came and it happens she was actually the one the man was cheating with as he already had a wife. I would have felt sorry for this woman if she had just simply walked away but she ended up embarrassing herself by pulling on the man, bad mouthing the wife and getting bloody fooled by the man who simply said their relationship was just based on sex and he loves he’s wife to bits. 

It is not your fault that 6months down the line it turns out the man you call your boyfriend already has a wife,
it is your fault if having discovered this you continue the relationship because you just sold your rights to be loved and treated with respect. From the moment that man knows you know that he’s been lying to you and you seem cool with it enough to continue the relationship with him after crying and kicking, you just entered an entrapment. Now he has peace of mind to eat his cake and also have it because not only are also going to be in a relationship with him and his wife but you will also be involved in protecting the wife from finding out he is cheating with you. i.e shutting up when he’s on the phone with her and making sure you wipe any lipstick stain off him. To you you’re keeping the man you love by forming alliance with him making you think you’re closer to him than his wife, to him you’re just another whore he fucks for free (pardon my French).

Its so unfortunate that the ratio of men to women has a very large margin but it is also your responsibility to move from hoe to housewife. If you keep dating men that already have women because you’re too scared to be single and all alone, you’ll always be single and all alone. Wait! Did you really think he was going to leave her for you? Think about it this way, if he wanted to leave her, he would have left her before he even met you. How come 6months down the line he is still thinking of leaving her? One thing I know for certain is that men never lie to themselves, they only lie to you. Stop comparing yourself to his woman, no matter how you see it, she is still better off than you. She is not in the dark of his life like you are and society will respect and sympathise with her even after she cuts your head off, you lost the battle either way, even before the fight began.

There is no rule or regulation on how to avoid a cheating man but the most sensible thing to do when you find
out you are being used is to step aside and swallow your pain whole. It will save you your image and give you the opportunity for better luck next time. I know it could be really painful when you discover that the loving person you’ve started to build your life around and see a future with already has his future going for him, it takes guts not to bite off your own lips from the confusion and pain and courage to dust it off to start over again but you can do it, so long as you are not silly enough to get pregnant for him or are you? First of all you are not even supposed to be having sex before marriage but who are we deceiving? Only a few people don’t have sex before marriage, therefore let me put it to you in a way we can all relate to; you are NOT, I repeat; you are NOT under any condition or circumstance supposed to be pregnant for any man who isn’t you husband.


If you get pregnant for a man you are not married to, you set up a brand new life for yourself separate from the one you have all planned out in your head. It could go in so many directions, he could marry you then  hate you for dragging him into marriage before he was ready, you could find out in fact he's already married with children of his own, he could break up the relationship based on him not being ready, he could propose to you and years after the baby is born you are still engaged or you could get married and  live happily after. It’s too much of a risk to take in other words, gone are the days when a woman could lure a man into marrying her by getting pregnant, men are getting wiser now and if you’re not the one, pregnant or not, you will not be the one. So don’t fight for what was never yours in the first place, everyone gets their chance at love. Today you could be the side chic, tomorrow the main woman,, so  focus on the prize and set your own standards,