tHaT oTHer WomAn

Ever thought of the dilemma of the other woman; her misery; her agony; her lost love; her hidden pain or her disapproval of your happiness? Today I am thinking of the other woman and no I don’t have such in my life but my thoughts go out to them. Am thinking of that woman your husband has kids with, the one before you. The woman he promised the heavens to but fulfilled those promises to you instead, the one that once made you the other woman only for the story to end in your favour. Today, am thinking of keeping relationships right with that woman.

Am not sure why women are wired the way we are but we seem to have zero tolerance for competition unlike the men. There is no such thing as healthy competition when it comes to we women, in fact competition with the other woman is laced with so much evil the mind cannot comprehend. The statement ‘hell hath no fury like a woman scorned’ should be understood literarily.  However, there is no reason why you shouldn’t respect and love genuinely a woman that was there before you and shares blood with the man you call your husband, if not for anything, for compassions sake.

Most women have had the opportunity to know what a broken heart feels like…nobody needs to tell us how much it hurts. Now imagine you causing another a broken heart…I know there’s the argument that it’s the man’s fault or maybe partially the woman’s fault for not knowing how to keep a man and since you know how to keep a man she needs to leave your tuff completely and forever. Let me say this; no matter how much you try, if another woman has kids for your man especially when she was there before you, she will forever share your tuff whether from just a mile or 100,000miles away…take it or leave it; she’s there and always will be.

Why am I writing or thinking about this? This is what I think; it will be much easier to show the other woman a little compassion, for no one likes to lose and everybody wants to love and be loved in return. Unfortunately this other woman has lost both ways and you cannot begin to imagine her struggles and pain having to take care of a child of a man that has his heart with another especially when she had him first. No matter how impossible or frustrating this woman might want to make your life seem, you have to be a little bit understanding of where she is coming from. We are women we know where it hurts the most.

I guess what I am saying here is we need to support and love one another more and stop being so resentful towards each other. I mean these resentments go beyond sharing a man, it streams all the way down to just a beautiful woman walking across the street from us and without even knowing her story or who she is we already don’t like her and are subconsciously looking for flaws to make ourselves more glorified than she looks. It really doesn’t have to be that way. You will find that the more you love and are happy for people, the more you feel love and happiness in you own life, and quite frankly all this hate for other women is what actually makes cheating much easier for men because instead of focusing energy on the one who actually did the hurting, we instead focus on the woman leaving the man almost blameless and giving him room to cheat some more. 

Life, love, and happiness are gifts God has allowed us to give to ourselves but these gifts are give and take. You can’t get any until you give out some, if you have another woman sharing space with you just as I’ve discussed above, try showing love and watch how it turns out. I can guarantee that even your man will have a new formed respect and love for you and the other woman will try her possible best not to stress up things for you.

Have a very lovely week, lets work on loving more no matter how much it hurts to do so. Because by so doing your are buying love for yourself and in this cruel world we live, we need all the love we can get. Xoxo.