SEX!

Argh this is extremely annoying I wrote a post about sex last week, posted it, changed my blog template and all, was happy with it and shut down my laptop. Fast forward to one hour later, the  post was no-where to be found. Not on the blog, not in the draft and unfortunately I deleted it from my word document but I’ll try to remember as much as I can from what I wrote, am sorry this is coming late, here goes…

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship as important as

much as it is interesting. I say interesting because I have tried to study the pattern of sex in comparison to cheating. As it is, men have a higher percentage in cheating than women, men get forgiven more often than women when cheating is the issue, it is more socially acceptable for men to cheat than women, it is more religiously acceptable for men to cheat than women (Muslims encourage up to four wives; it is easier for a pastor to tell a woman to forgive her husband and continue to pray for him than for him to tell a man to do the same with his wife) so why do men cheat? (Rhetorical question).

Could it be because they don’t love enough? Maybe because they can’t get enough? Or probably the sex varies from one woman to the other, who knows??? A male friend told me a few years ago that its the same pleasure from one woman to the other, his own take. Well here’s my take on it; I know generally women don’t get fully satisfied with sex; 1. Because I am a woman , 2. Because I know that sex ends as soon as the man cums. Now my question is could it be that men generally cheat because women practically fake most part of sex whilst making the men feel like superman? With all the who’s the daddy, call me big poppa, say am the BOSS, who owes this-type expression some of them make and women just playing right along, only to end up with back ache and a sore vagina. Really, who wouldnt feel like superman?

You know I will never leave you hanging right? This is 2014 and if you follow my blog you will know am a

strong advocate for happiness. Get a pen and paper and write your new year’s resolution now:

11.      I shall be happy

22.       I shall do anything that will make me happy

33.       I shall not forget to remember 1

44.       I will be happy

55.       I must be happy

66.       I refuse to be unhappy

77.       My purpose in life is to be happy

88.       Happiness is paramount

99.       I was made to be happy

110.   I was born to die happy

That listed, now you know you have to be in a happy relationship to be happy right? Stop giving men so much credit, the world gives them credit enough so don’t jeopardise your happiness to preserve a man’s ego.  Communication is of utmost importance to achieve a healthy and satisfying sex life. I’ll tell you this, if you are not satisfied with the sex, let your man know, and it doesn’t even matter if he goes on for 2hours or 2mins, what makes great sex is when you climax, so stop counting the seconds, start being real. I remember a friend of mine was honest enough to confide in me that she had never reached orgasm with her man and according to her he is not a 2min man but a lot of women will never say this not to talk of to their men. You do most the cleaning, most or all the cooking and everything else to keep the relationship functioning, why should you do all that and still saddle yourself with bad sex?

Think about it this way, a man’s priced possession is his ego, he will do anything to protect it, telling him you are not satisfied with the sex will in the long run earn you better sex and a longer lasting peaceful relationship. He will do everything in his ability to ensure you can say the sex was great. Not because he loves you so much but because he has to keep his ego intact. It will also better your relationship as he wouldn’t feel all so confident in sowing his royal oaths with every woman that comes along, knowing in actual fact he is not that much of a superman will enable him think very deeply before jumping into some other woman’s bed (in the effort to avoid bad sex). You can't give advice and not practice what you preach right? So i'll tell you this, am very honest about sex with my husband, we're open like that; whenever am not satisfied with the sex, I make it known, communication is key and so far it has worked very well to my advantage. 

Now my husband knows how and where to turn me on well enough to get me in mood so that am half way there before the real action even begins. I encourage you to do the same, take a plunge this year, make your body sing.  With all of these said, I wish you all a very happy new year with lots of love and sex happiness. Till next time get that g-spot right.