I was reading a while back and the issue of money in relationship was the primary subject so I thought to shed my own light on the matter but before I start I’ll say this, if money is an issue in your relationship it will break you. There are several reasons why two individuals of the same class work well in a relationship, the most important reason is money matter coupled with so many others such as common interest, education (study and horizon), and etc. Money has a huge effect on the turn out of your relationship, it will either break you or make you, no in between. So please leave your comments, it encourages me to know that you’re reading which is every writer's dream and I know you’re reading, I see a lot of regulars on my traffic all the time. Leave a comment, encourage me to encourage you.

In as much as men like to carter, they also do not want to feel like they are being used. In truth, I have never come across women believing that once a man takes interest in getting to know them the spending should start rolling like in Nigerian women. It is so bad that a man’s spending determines his level of interest and a lot of men take advantage of this, they go straight to the spending so they can have quick access to the panties, so if you make a man spend so much on you, be ready to give him what he has paid for. A lot of women in Nigeria live their lives based on the logic that a man must spend and I think that is one of the reasons why so many people are single today, male/female.

If he is not your husband, then limit your spending antics to your father, quit asking for things your father cannot provide you from a man who is not your father’s age. Imagine how long it took your father to get to have the amount of wealth he has and compare it to the age of the man you’re dating. Why then do you ask ridiculously for things the major male character in your life cannot provide?

I understand the fact that two fingers are not equal and in actual fact, some people are born with a silver spoon so this illustration might be flawed but at the same time, it is the idea surrounding it that you should concentrate more on. Don’t act like you have a sole right to your boyfriend pocket when he is not yet your husband, he doesn’t have to, unless he chooses to. He has a choice and whatever choice he makes should not determine how your relationship is run. You may narrow it down to you cooking and cleaning and going to his house from time to time to do his laundry therefore he shouldn’t have a problem with picking up your bills whenever you have one but it was your choice to do all these things, so if you’re not a maid, don’t expect to get paid. The sex is not even valid point enough for him to pick up your bills because it takes two to consent to love making, therefore stop putting a claim on your private part as he did not rape you and you are not a common prostitute expecting payment. If it is a conscious act, you both have equal right to the enjoyment of it.

Money is one issue that everyone feels sensitive about especially women. It is easy for women to receive and ask for money from their men but once the table is flipped then the problem starts, the notion of your money is ours and mine is mine has broken so many relationships today. A relationship is a partnership of two and so should it be run…like a partnership. There is nothing wrong in contributing even if it is the smallest contribution of say for instance; paying for the drinks after he has paid for the cinema tickets and popcorn, it gives you good practice on how to run your future home. If you start with that, you will see that when you eventually get married and chips are down, it wouldn’t be that difficult and frustrating to help out, it will most likely allow your home function normally and healthily with no strains based on the change in situation. 

In relationships where the woman is the one with the money, you should never forget your responsibilities as a man.  A lot of women don’t mind spending on their men but if you have no limit on how often you ask for funds from your lady then there is a problem. First you show no shame as a man and second you gradually give her the sole title of the head in your relationship and here is where the problem starts. If your woman is gradually becoming head, don’t expect her to still remain submissive to you, after all the only party that needs to be submitted to is the head so she earned the right. As a man that you claim to be, you need to be familiar with hunting and fishing ropes, you have to hunt in other to put food on your woman’s table, if your woman is the one doing all the hunting on your behalf then what exactly is your worth and contribution to your relationship?

Judging that you don’t do the cleaning, you don’t do the cooking, you don’t do the child bearing and you don’t hunt, then you are utterly useless. She might as well get a dildo for sex and TV sitcoms for company, a woman who provides solely for her man is an unfulfilled woman and that relationship is already strained. She will constantly seek for change for a better man and that is when your relationship starts heading down-hill. This might be biased but I’ll type it again; couples who are on the same or with not so much gap on the financial level often work out much better because as much as we all try to ignore it and be in self- denial of it; finance matters ‘A LOT’ in a relationship. If you don’t believe me, ask a man who is struggling financially married to a woman from a wealthy family, love may just not be enough. Couples stand a better chance growing an empire together than moving into your partner’s empire: they are already lord and master of their castle and you cannot pull a king/queen of a kingdom down…that is treason and historians will tell you that treason is punishable by death and death alone. Hence! The death of your relationship.